Wait…so at the end of her long story about how crazy and undesirable this guy is and how she’s not at all interested and she doesn’t understand why he won’t leave her alone she’s….still willing to let him sleep on her couch? I don’t know…I’d call those some serious mixed messages! If I’m weirded out by a guy who is moving too fast and I’m totally turned off by every aspect of his existence I think I might…cancel the date. And…not offer up my couch.
If this guy is confused about where he stands with her….well, I’d say rightly so!
I was more concerned about her safety. This guy is not getting it. He already disregarded her specific instructions to find somewhere else to stay. Seems like he might have trouble remembering that he is supposed to stay on the couch.
Two things: First, WTF Tumblr? Why do you sometimes drop a follow? Kat, somehow I wasn’t following you. Bizarre. This has now been corrected! Second, I agree—this is not a safe situation for her. The guy is not listening to her. I guess…and this is a slippery slope and can easily be misconstrued…but at the point where she is aware that he’s not listening to/respecting her boundaries, the date needs to be off—no date, no drinks, certainly no sleeping on the couch. I think he has a responsibility to not put her in this position and she has a responsibility to not allow him to manipulate her into this situation. He needs to know—explicitly—what decision she is making (no date) and why she’s making it (you are not respecting my boundaries and I cannot trust you). Am I off base? I could be…I just feel like agreeing to let him stay in her home despite being opposed to the idea may contribute to a significantly worse situation.